I am definitely getting that on the divergence of fandom experiences! it's cool to hear from so many people about that. obviously spending so much time in slash-only fandom (though the more I think about it the more I realize I'm overgeneralizing my own experience, haha, I talked with my former babysitter who still reads all my fic for me and she pointed out that I was still writing stuff other than all-dudes-all-the-time during the period of my life that I think of as "slash only" and presumably I was reading it too; I was just reading and writing dude-on-dude way more so that's what I remember) means that most of the people I was around were pretty similar to me in outlook, which kind of skews my view of what "other people" in general think/thought.
yeah, Star Trek XI might have even been one of the fandoms that really opened my eyes to the light of LADIES ARE WONDERFUL AND DESERVE STORIES. I was never really actively in that fandom but it always felt so welcoming. I don't really know how to articulate it, but it felt like caring about women was a default? at least in the spaces I went into, and I do not feel that way at all about football fandom, or about Supernatural, which was my main fandom before falling into the wacky land of sports RPF.
it's totally possible that my RESEARCH EVERYTHIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIING glasses are blinding me to the common experience of football fandom. I like doing the research and, idk, finding out what Paula Mata is like, but I think I forget a lot of the time that most people don't feel that way (and I don't feel that way about other fandoms either! my relationship with sports RPF is weird) so I probably over-react to the attitude of "I don't know them so I don't care". it just depresses me sometimes that people will happily read a slash fic about two dudes they know nothing about, but ask them to read about a player they know and love and his girlfriend? OUT OF HERE. and of course you know my feelings about the angel/harpy dichotomy, we have discussed these things many times XD I guess the solution is maybe to keep writing ladies as secondary characters, and hoping that people will get to know them that way? idk. ALSO PRIMERS. WE ARE GOING TO WRITE SOME DAMN PRIMERS, MY FRIEND. MY ENABLER SKILLZ WILL BE PUT TO GOOD USE FOR ONCE.
(that mental arithmetic is one of the main reasons I thought this was worth posting about. DAMMIT I WANT A PLACE TO POST MY HET. I WORKED ON THAT STUFF, PEOPLE SHOULD APPRECIATE IT. XD)
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Date: 2012-05-23 10:57 pm (UTC)yeah, Star Trek XI might have even been one of the fandoms that really opened my eyes to the light of LADIES ARE WONDERFUL AND DESERVE STORIES. I was never really actively in that fandom but it always felt so welcoming. I don't really know how to articulate it, but it felt like caring about women was a default? at least in the spaces I went into, and I do not feel that way at all about football fandom, or about Supernatural, which was my main fandom before falling into the wacky land of sports RPF.
it's totally possible that my RESEARCH EVERYTHIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIING glasses are blinding me to the common experience of football fandom. I like doing the research and, idk, finding out what Paula Mata is like, but I think I forget a lot of the time that most people don't feel that way (and I don't feel that way about other fandoms either! my relationship with sports RPF is weird) so I probably over-react to the attitude of "I don't know them so I don't care". it just depresses me sometimes that people will happily read a slash fic about two dudes they know nothing about, but ask them to read about a player they know and love and his girlfriend? OUT OF HERE. and of course you know my feelings about the angel/harpy dichotomy, we have discussed these things many times XD I guess the solution is maybe to keep writing ladies as secondary characters, and hoping that people will get to know them that way? idk. ALSO PRIMERS. WE ARE GOING TO WRITE SOME DAMN PRIMERS, MY FRIEND. MY ENABLER SKILLZ WILL BE PUT TO GOOD USE FOR ONCE.
(that mental arithmetic is one of the main reasons I thought this was worth posting about. DAMMIT I WANT A PLACE TO POST MY HET. I WORKED ON THAT STUFF, PEOPLE SHOULD APPRECIATE IT. XD)